Take a minute and think about the thoughts that rumble around in your head every day. Are they positive supportive thoughts, or are they negative, repetitive, damaging thoughts?
Positive self-talk can help you in feeling more energised to take on daily tasks whereas constant negative self-talk can suck the life from you and deplete your energy levels.
Studies have shown that positive self-talk can support you in managing stress, it can improve your confidence, your self-esteem and overall general health and wellbeing. With positive self-talk, you are able to problem-solve more efficiently and resolve conflict in a calm and more controlled manner.
On the other hand, negative self-talk can give you a false sense of purpose, it can lower your ability to see opportunities for yourself and others. It is known to create a myriad of symptoms such as anxiety, perfectionism, low self-esteem and even chronic fatigue. It can even change your hormone levels and give you digestive problems or gut issues!
Your self-talk guides your behaviour, sometimes without you even realising it, if you are spiraling in a negative cycle, controlling these thoughts can be hard to do. You see, your negative thoughts can manifest into powerful destructive emotions like resentment, anger, blame and sadness.
The first thing to do to overcome a negative cycle is to become consciously aware of your self-talk and challenge your narrative.
When couples are struggling in their relationship their negative self-talk can often be more damaging than the triggers. People can get stuck in their head and struggle to move past their emotional trauma, their self-talk only fuelling their grief even further.
So, if you are feeling stuck in a negative self-talk cycle, feeling constantly exhausted, overwhelmed and angry, then perhaps it’s time for a change!
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