Healing Old Wounds in your Relationship

Old wounds have many ways of sabotaging relationship happiness.

The existence and influence of these old wounds will often be on a subconscious level, meaning you will not know they are there, but the effects will be obvious.

When something in the present moment triggers an old memory that is attached to an old hurt, we are inclined to react to the new situation as though it’s an old one.

Author Harville Hendrix PhD believes that ‘Ninety percent of our frustrations with our partner come from experiences from our past. That means only 10% of the frustrations you currently have are about each other’.  From my experience working with hundreds of couples, I have to agree with him!

Here are a few key points that will help you identify if an old wound is at play:

  • The conflict is constant, and always feels the same.
  • Your emotional response is often intense and can be over-exaggerated.
  • Your reaction is difficult to shift and you hold onto the issue and hurt for much longer.

Your past wounds make up your emotional armour, your emotional armour dictates how you manage conflict, emotional trauma and your ability to be vulnerable with yourself and your partner.

The relationship recovery process we offer helps you identify what your old wounds are and what your current behaviours are when your old wounds are triggered.

So, if you are struggling to connect in your relationship or you are single and don’t want past hurts to sabotage future happiness, let us support you.

We will delicately explore these areas and help you in healing so you can live a happier more meaningful life with less angst and conflict.