What type of habits have you and your partner adopted in your romantic relationship?
Are these habits positive and support a happy and healthy relationship or are your habits dysfunctional and destructive causing you grief and sadness in your relationship? As you probably know by now, all relationships take work and both parties need to become aware of their contribution towards an unhappy relationship.
So, with that said, here are my top 5 secrets to a successful relationship.
Communication is one of the biggest keys to a successful relationship. Unfortunately, during a conflict, this seems to be the first thing to leave.
Focus on being open and honest about your feelings, take responsibility for your decisions and choices and avoid blaming the other person for your decisions. Active listening is a key trait in a successful relationship. Without judgement, listen to what your partner is trying to communicate to you, paraphrase what you have heard and try to avoid using tone!
I have created this list for you to instil awareness to the fundamentals of a healthy relationship. If you feel your relationship does not have these points, its important you address your concerns with your partner and/or seek professional support.
1/ Your relationship is a safe place
What I mean by this is; you feel comfortable in your relationship, sure you may argue, most couples do after all, we are ALL uniquely different!
However, to feel you can be yourself in your relationship without prejudice, is an important factor in a healthy relationship. Knowing your partner is there for you, having your back through thick and thin creates a safe space for you.
2/ You trust each other and show respect to one another
Your healthy relationship is built on trust and commitment to one another.
Do I smile more or cry more in my relationship?
All relationships have arguments or disagreements from time to time, that’s because we are all uniquely different. But are you constantly disagreeing? When you argue do you increasingly raise your voice, fighting your cause by using past issues and including content that is deliberately designed to hurt your partner?
Are you finding you are turning into a person that not even you recognise anymore?
Do I give myself freely to my relationship?
How much effort are you putting into your relationship? Do you feel exhausted, worn out and have made the conscious decision to stop trying? Has your partner decided to stop trying as well? Giving up and closing down encourages more discontent, through lack of communication, lack of emotional and physical intimacy preventing both parties experiencing happiness.
What stage are you at? Research has identified that the lifespan of many relationships can be divided into different stages. Of course, there is no such thing as an average or normal relationship. We are all uniquely different and our relationships are also uniquely different.
What’s important to remember is if your relationship is struggling, please seek professional support to get you back on track.
Below I have identified five of the most common stages a relationship may experience.
WHAT STRESS CAN DO TO YOUR BODY
Overwhelming stress can impact your mental health and physical well-being.
Stress can bring on symptoms of anxiety and depression, it can reduce your enthusiasm to perform daily activities, even activities you usually enjoy such as; catching up with friends, going out to dinner or even sex.
Stress can affect your immune system by weakening your body’s defences and you could be more prone to catch the dreaded cold or flu.
Feeling stress constantly can affect your digestive system and may contribute to issues such as irritable bowel syndrome, acid reflux, diarrhoea and constipation. It can contribute to muscle and joint tension, headaches and can exacerbate existing skin conditions. Does any of this sound familiar?